Tuesday, February 20, 2007

Chinese/American

When somebody signs anonymous, and don’t sign their name it makes me think different things. Does the person know that their comment is rude, or offensive, and they are ashamed to sign their name? If you don’t sign your name, there is a reason. Most of the time it is not a good reason. There is times that you might forget, or new people don’t understand how to leave a comment.
I don’t mind posting a anonymous comment if I think it was meant for good.
I want to say America is the best Happy New Year we could have. I am proud to be in America. Just because I feel this way don’t change the fact that I have a Chinese daughter. My daughter has Chinese genes. My daughter was giving to me by God. I
have no doubt on that. People have made statements to me, that is very rude. Most people are kind and don’t say things, but there are those few that just don’t understand. People have made comments to me like “She is American now, so why do you have to have anything to do with China” First, she is American, but that don’t change her genes. Second, Kevin and I signed a paper when we adopted Brooke that we would tell her about her heritage and we would tell her about the culture of China. We do not lie. In America we celebrate the New Year in January. In America we have some crazy ways of celebrating and bringing in the New year. The same goes for China. China celebrates in February. If you don’t have a daughter or son from China, then I know you don’t understand about these holidays. With us signing the paper that we would tell her about her heritage, we feel we must do that. There is many Chinese holidays that we will participate in, as long as it is not sin. I also think it will be a help to Brooke to see other children that have been adopted from China. We may not always participate in these Chinese Holidays. Brooke may not be interested when she is older.
Brooke is a American citizen now. That still don’t change her genes. Brooke will want to know about her heritage, and we will do our best to tell her.
I hope this helps those who don’t understand. Here is a few more things you can think on. We are a CHINESE, AMERICAN, HAPPY, FAMILY.
Brooke may not be flesh of my flesh or bone of my bone, but she is still miraculously my own. Brooke may not have grew under my heart, but she grew in it.

We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life.
But those who make their journey home across time & miles,
growing within the hearts of those who wait to love them,
are carried on the wings of destiny and placed among us
by God's very own hands.
--- Kristi Larson

4 comments:

Alabamabrands said...

I think it great for any child whatever their genes to learn about other cultures.
America is not the only continent in the world!

Lisa L said...

You go girl! Our children deserve to celebrate their birth country's culture. It is an honor to be about to be a part of that.

baSfsoGp said...

I very much enjoyed watching the children sing their Chinese New Year's song.

There are always ways for people to show their insensitivity. It comes out for more than just an adoption or regarding a Chinese culture.

As saved people we have plenty of practice of putting negative things out of our minds and reaching out for the good. Just think about those of us who are glad for what you are doing! Don't give the others any time in your mind.

Omaloriann said...

I agree with you Denna. I am proud of my Amish roots as well & want my children to know about thier roots, I feel its important to them. I don't advocate the religion part at all, but the culture part of it is VERY special to me. So glad that mom & dad came out of "her" when they did so that my children could be raised COG, but the Amish part is still there, ya know?